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Say Goodbye to Google Reader

Posted March 18, 2013 By Reba J. Hoffman, Ph.D.

RSS ICONGoogle announced last week they were discontinuing their famous Reader in July of this year. Parting is such sweet sorrow. I’ve grown to love having all the blogs I follow conveniently in one location. It will be sorely missed.

 As an entrepreneur, though, it’s actually really GREAT news for you and your blog. Oh, don’t have a blog? Then stop reading right now and go start one. Go ahead. This post will be here when you get back.

Here’s the thing. Entrepreneurs—yes, this includes all my author friends—want to reach out and connect with as many people as possible. Relationship is key and if they don’t have a specific place to come find you, it becomes wholly impersonal.

Think of it this way. Say you want chocolate. You could go to Wally-world and figure out which of a bazillion isles they stock
the chocolate. You’d eventually find it, then wait in line to have it scanned and bagged. That is so bland and impersonal.

But, what if you went to a little piece of the world called Alderbrook Chocolatiers? They only sell… well, chocolate. You walk Various Truffles
in the door and are immediately greeted by a warm, friendly face and the aroma of what has to be the best chocolate in the world.

Your mouth waters and you can’t wait to sink your teeth into that rich, creamy taste of Heaven.

That’s the difference between having readers get your blog through Google Reader and having it delivered directly to their email every day. Just think, they open their email—you know they all do!—and there you are, personal and present in their space.

Though millions of us will mourn the passing of GR, entrepreneurs will get a huge inheritance by:

Building relationships faster. You can offer to deliver your blog to their email every day. That makes things intimate and accommodating. You can easily subscribe to an auto-delivery system and it does the work for you very inexpensively. I use Constant Contact and highly recommend it.

Inviting them to your house. Virtually speaking, you can open the front door and welcome them into your website that oozes with your brilliance, warmth and kindness. They’d never get that from an electronic reader.

Businesspeople Applauding --- Image by © Royalty-Free/CorbisEarning their trust. When you show up as you promised on a regular basis in their email inbox, and you provide them really great content that does what you said it would do, they will know you’re a woman of your word. Nothing builds trust quicker.

They’ll find help. Your website (or blogsite: I now use these terms interchangeably thanks to WordPress) will contain helpful information, solutions to their problems and when they land there, they’ll feel better about themselves and you.

Death is never an easy thing, not even an electronic reader. I’ll miss Google Reader for sure but am thrilled that I will be able to connect on a deeper level with so many.

If you’re reading my daily blog via Google Reader, please take the time to subscribe to it on my website. Just a couple of clicks and you won’t miss a single issue. And it will be right there waiting for you whenever you want to open it.

My commitment to you is to continue to provide the best content encouragement, enlightenment and education to help you transition from the job you hate to the career you love! Just join my mailing list at: www.RebaJHoffman.com . Or, you can text  COACHREBA to 22828. 

How do you handle changes? Do you figure out another way or just throw in the towel? Share it here!

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Step… and the Path Will Appear

Posted March 12, 2013 By Reba J. Hoffman, Ph.D.

Stone STepsRelax ladies. I’m not going to suggest you jump headlong into the scary terrifying darkness of the unknown. That would be suicide. But so would not doing anything at all.

Here’s the thing. That dream in your heart won’t go away. You may drown it out temporarily but it will remain there. It’s meant to be there. Why? It’s your destiny. Your gifts make room for you. That’s Biblical.

I’m not suggesting you sell the ranch, buy a Harley and set out across the country on a whim. But I am highly recommending you begin to take steps in the direction of your dreams.

I talk and work with women all the time who are paralyzed in an unhappy existence because they are afraid to take the first step. They can’t see what’s out there. So they stand still. They just don’t know that if they could step and the path will appear.

Here are some facts about that:

Taking one unseen step is rarely fatal. What’s more, it’s rarely wrong. You’re an intuitive woman. Trust that gift GodHIKING IN SOUTHERN INDIANA has given you.

The path usually doesn’t appear until we take the step. It’s called faith and even Mrs. Chicken Little has some. God made sure of it.

It makes you feel better. An entrepreneur in motion most likely will stay in motion. Especially a woman entrepreneur. And moving toward your dream has healing qualities.

It gets easier. After you take the first step, your confidence grows and you’ll eventually love the thought of the next step.

Taking that step changes you. Once you take a step, your mind, will and emotions transform into a new and amazing you.

Dream RoadOne thing I tell my clients is that life is going to happen whether you’re living your dream or not. Life is life and if you’re going to have challenges anyway, why not experience them while you’re moving toward the life you envision for yourself?

I know it’s not easy but it does get easier the more you do it. Seriously, if you don’t believe me, just take a step… and the path will appear.

What step do you know you need to take but have been holding back? What’s stopping you? What are your fears? Share it here! 

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The Number One Thing That Holds Women Back

Posted March 4, 2013 By Reba J. Hoffman, Ph.D.

"The Beginning" Road Sign with dramatic blue sky and clouds.The most common objection I hear from women with entrepreneurial dreams is that business causes too many headaches. It’s daunting to file for fictitious names or learning how to accept payments by credit card. Better leave well enough alone.

That concern is true enough. I’ll give them that. But the only difference between treading those uncharted waters and the life they’re trying to leave is that their everyday stress is familiar. That’s it.

Some stress is a natural—even necessary—part of life. But I see women get so excited about their dream on one day, then completely talk themselves out of it the next because they don’t know how to do something.

In the 1960’s that would have been terrifying. In 2013, almost any information you need is a click away with a Google search.little girl on road

What’s more, with our world having gone viral, it’s possible to start and build a successful business with very little startup funds. That never would have been possible back then.

So what’s behind the number one thing that holds women back? It’s not that they are at the end of their rope and can’t take another micro millimeter of stress. It’s fear. They are petrified to move forward.

Suddenly, when they actually begin going through the steps of establishing themselves as in business, it ignites the fight-or-flight response and many run for their lives. While it’s great to know the adrenal glands are working properly, it will eventually leave you empty.

You see, that dream you have inside you is too important to remain unlived. Sooner or later, you’ll be upset with yourself because hours, days or years went by with your dream in the closet. You’ll have stress… the normal challenges of life, but now you’ll add to it the angst of an unfulfilled dream.

Footbridge Spanning the Base of a ValleySo how do you overcome that?

Take one step at a time. That’s right. Just one step. You can fill out one online form or go to your bank to open your business account. The bankers are really very helpful.

Understand your feeling is normal. I’m sure that didn’t make your fear subside but the knot in your gut will go away as you become more and more familiar with seeing yourself as an entrepreneur.

Cut yourself some slack. It’s ok to shake in your boots. Shaky boots that are taking steps still propel you forward!

Entrepreneurship, while not always easy, really is simple. Business doesn’t have to be complicated. You can do this. I believe in you. You owe it to yourself and the world to live your dream. Make a pact with yourself that you will not be plagued by the number one thing that holds most women back.

Do you have a dream but feel afraid? How have you reacted? What have you done? Share it here. I’d love to hear!

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Three Secrets Every Woman Must Know

Posted February 26, 2013 By Reba J. Hoffman, Ph.D.

Woman Turning Off AlarmIn this day and time, women are usually busy from alarm clock to crash past midnight bringing home the bacon, frying it up in the pan, setting the table, making sure everyone is fed, cleaning the dishes and kitchen. I’m dizzy from that sentence. Are you?

The fact is, as women, we don’t do things… We ARE the things we do. And because of that, when our work-a-day jobs end or change drastically, it pierces us in the heart. The downward spiral to unhappy existence begins.

 I’d like to share with you three secrets that can get you energized. What’s more, they will get you moving—taking action—for you and your future. Here they are:

Your job is not really secure. Things change overnight. Buy outs, layoffs, takeovers, downsizing are all very real and, Office Buildingmost likely are right outside your cubicle.

When it comes to living your dream career, impossible is only a word that starts with the letter “I”. Nothing is impossible. Walt Disney said, “If you can dream it, you can do it.” That doesn’t sound even remotely impossible.

Life is going to happen whether you are pursuing your dream or not. It’s true. Issues and challenges will arise whether you’re crammed into the cubicle or meeting the needs of your five new clients. So if that’s the case, why not pursue what you want to do in life?

Woman Tending to GardenBonus Secret: Sorry, I couldn’t resist. You deserve the opportunity to pursue your dream in life. Enough said. That really is a secret because most women spend their days helping others pursue their dreams while their own dream is nothing more than what happens in their subconscious thoughts between bedtime and dawn.

There is no company—no not even Walmart or Amazon—that can meet every need. That’s where you come in. You have the ability to meet the needs of a whole lot of people with your gifts and talents. You owe it to yourself and the world to pursue that dream.

What do you dream of doing? Is it a secret or do others know? Share it here.

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Do What You Love and Make Money Doing It

Posted February 22, 2013 By Reba J. Hoffman, Ph.D.

young woman in computer labI’m sure you noticed that I didn’t blog every day last week. There’s a good reason for that. I’ve been brainstorming and developing ways I can help single women do the work they love and let that become their sole source of income.

I’ve met so many single women who are working at a job they don’t like just because they can’t afford to give up that income. Going to work is drudgery and they feel stuck.

I know it’s possible to transition out of your day job and into the career you love without making drastic or even irresponsible changes to your life. I’ve gone through it myself and, because I continue to grow and change, I’m sure I’ll go through it many more times before I hang up my hat.

So I’m so excited to announce that the focus of my blog will be changing. You’ll still get the great encouraging words you’ve enjoyed Happy Girl on computerover the last year, but now I’ll be focusing on challenges single women face.

I know you can do what you love and make money at it. I live it. And now I’m going to be teaching it. There really is a way to safely transition from the job you hate to the career you love. I’ll show you how in the months to come.

Here is just a glimpse of some of the challenges single women face. We’ll be working through those.

They feel vulnerable. Single women normally have no other income other than from the job they don’t like.

They are afraid to take risks. Rightfully so. Their existence lives or dies by the decisions they make.

They don’t know how to do both. But it is possible to start a new career while still receiving a paycheck from your current employer. I’ll show you how.

I’m super excited about doing this. I hope you are as well. I need your help. Because I know what I’m going to say will have a huge impact on the life and happiness of single women, I need you to help me get the word out.

Young woman sitting at camp fire, holding fried sausageI’m certain your single women friends will be helped by this topic and you could be their hero by forwarding this email to them. Would you? You would make their day… and mine.

I look forward to this new and exciting focus.

Are you a single woman working at a job you don’t particularly like? Is there something you’d rather do? Share it here.

 

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